“What You Mutter Matters”
I sat at my desk this morning savoring my first cup of coffee watching the day get lighter and lighter with the sunrise. I was ready to begin my morning work ritual. I looked at my daily calendar that still displayed yesterday’s date and saying:
MON APR 02 do your work.
Not very exciting. I got a bit excited thinking of today’s message, as today is my birthday. I was expecting some amazing words of wisdom from my calendar that would tell me what was important in my new birth year. It would be that one thing that I needed to hear today the most. Well, I slowly, with great anticipation, turned the calendar page to today. It read: My anticipation was worth it.
This was exactly what I needed to read. A friend of mine, Julie, always says, “What You Mutter Matters.” When she says this she is mostly referring to our self-talk. It’s that inner talk that can be cheerful and helpful or self-defeating and negative.
According to Psychology Today “your self-talk combines your conscious thought with your unconscious beliefs and biases. It’s an effective way for your brain to interpret and process your daily experience.”
She talks about this in the context that we can’t totally stop these negative thoughts that we mutter to ourselves, but it is important to notice their impact. The first step of noticing this is to become more aware of it, saying to ourselves "Isn’t that an interesting muttering," and examine it for the truth or the unconscious belief or bias it holds.
I do believe what I mutter matters and that it shows up in my behaviors and impact. I would rather it show up consciously. This calendar affirmation, “your words have power” also has a different meaning for me.
I’ve published three books in the last fourteen months, one of which is a best seller. I am very humbled by this experience as letting go of one’s writing to the world is the most vulnerable feeling I have ever experienced.
My vision of my books and my blogs is that someone, maybe you, will read my writing and perhaps experience an ‘Aha.’ If not an ‘Aha,’ at least to know they are not alone in the challenges and the failures and the unexpected successes we have in this life.
"Your words have power. Speak words that are kind, loving, positive, uplifting, encouraging, and life-giving." -Unknown
Remember….what you mutter matters…to yourself and others.