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Finding Truth in Feedback…Damn it!

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A few years ago I attended a yearlong intensive leadership program with 23 other participants led by Co-Active Training Institute. This program included four residential retreats as well as several homework projects that all focused on observing and learning about leadership impact.

I found this program to be extremely useful in helping me recognize and value my personal leadership styles and strengths. During this period, I developed the capacity to be effective in a wide range of...

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Find Your Own Definition of Success

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Many years ago I owned a fulfillment company with another woman and we applied for a “Best Customer Service” award from a top-tier international company. We were one of more than a hundred companies that entered the competition, and we won third place. At the award ceremony, the late John Wooden handed out the awards. For those like me who don’t closely follow basketball, John Wooden was simply an American basketball player and coach. But for those who eat basketball...

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Changing for the Sake of My Leadership

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I always took great pride in my ability to accomplish a lot. I was one of the fastest “Check it off, it’s done” people I knew. During a leadership program I attended, I pulled aside the leader and told her, “I am getting impatient with all these people. They seem to take forever to come to a decision and want to just talk on and on and on.” She looked at me and smiled. “Pat, I know that you are capable of accomplishing a lot. I’ve seen it. The...

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Set Your Intention, then Find a Structure to Remember It

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I have always been great at testing. There was something about the preparation and pressure of tests that got my adrenaline pumping and allowed me to attack them with complete focus and attention. I knew my stuff!  

When I put the stake in the ground to start my own coaching business and give it two years to turn a profit, I got trained in this field. I attended a six-month coach training school. In order to be certified, I had...

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7 Ways to Get Over Your Impostor Syndrome

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Many of my clients feel the Imposter Syndrome and this recent Thrive Global (to which I’m a contributor) has some great ways to stop letting feelings of self-doubt prevent you from reaching your potential.

What can start as a quiet, nagging voice in the back of your head telling you-you’re not qualified for a job or task can quickly evolve into paralyzing self-doubt and the fear that you’ll be “found out.” Welcome to impostor syndrome — an...

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The Life Lesson I Learned from Jennifer Lawrence

I love the Oscars. The dresses. The interviews. The songs. The reactions. The heartfelt thank-yous.  

I also wait for the blunders. 

I learn some of my greatest lessons from blunders and Jennifer Lawrence taught me one of my biggest lessons. She taught me how to recover from anything.  

In 2013 at the Oscar ceremony, some of you may remember Jennifer Lawrence was announced as the Best Actress winner for “Silver Linings Playbook”. As she...

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It’s a Rewrite






A few months back onThe Tonight Showwith Stephen Colbert, Lin-Manuel Miranda, thecreator of the Broadway musicalHamiltonthat won 11 Emmys, was talking about how he wasbringing the musical to Puerto Rico, wherehis parents are from, for three weeks and donating all themoney to arts organizations in Puerto Rico.



At that time, it hadbeen over two years since he stepped away from being aperformer in the play.Colbert asked him how longrehearsalswould last.Miranda said that the cast would...

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What I’m Giving Up for Success




“Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you're proud to live.”

-- Anne Sweeney




I recently joined a new mastermind group and they’ve been stretching me to seriously evaluate what the next steps are that I must take to up my game in both my professional and personal life.



I’ve always believed it is critical to define success for myself. What has taken me longer to realize is that deciding what I’m willing to give up for success is just as...

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Defining Your Personal Power




“Personal power is the ability to stand on your own two feet with a smile on your face in the middle of a universe that contains a million ways to crush you.”

J.Z. Colby




Let’s talk aboutpersonal power.I use the term power frequently in my work.Power in authenticity, power in using one’svoice, stepping into your power, and evenAmyCuddy’spower poses.



But what does power mean? Sometimes when I mention power, people, especially women, will say, “Oh no, I don’t want to be powerful.” And...

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Work Life Balance.... Ha! Ha! Ha! NO WAY!

"There's no such thing as work-life balance. There are work-life choices, and you make them, and they have consequences." - Jack Welch


I met with one of my clients for our first meeting where we set expectations of each other. One of the first assignments I give my clients is to write down their top 10 values and rank them according to importance. When I asked this of my client, the first thing she asked is ”Should I write the values for my work life or my personal life?"

I asked, "What is...

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