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How I Found My Gutsy

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The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. ~ Alice Walker

Have you ever had someone say something to you that shook your world and made you feel worth less than what you believed you were worth? Well, I have and here’s what I did about it.

Early in my career, I was working in business at an international company. It was January, the dreaded “Personnel Management Performance Review” time. I walked into my boss’ office, and sat at the round table where…

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Be Thankful for the Setbacks

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This historic year has been very difficult for most of us and the advice we’ve received about not being with extended family and friends has also been hard to hear. But through it all, I know human beings are a resilient bunch and we will make it through this.

One of the gifts the Pandemic has given me is a newfound pleasure of poetry. Here is my Thanksgiving poem to you.

Be Thankful by Anonymous

Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire.
If you did, what would there be …

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The Benefits of Having an Attitude of Gratitude

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“Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.” - Voltaire

We are now in the time of the year where we think of everything we are grateful for.

We all know what gratitude means. It is the quality of being thankful or readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. The word ‘gratitude’ comes from the Latin word gratus, meaning pleasing or thankful.

Research shows that people who are grateful tend to show higher levels of well-being…

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The Real Power of Personal Power

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“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength, mastering yourself is true power.” – Lao-Tzu

In my work, I talk about power. Power in living authentically, power in using your voice, stepping into your power, and even using power poses. But what does power mean? Sometimes when I mention power, people will say, “Oh no, I don’t want to be powerful.” And when we dig a little deeper I find a lot of people are afraid of power because they have the …

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Finding Your Strengths

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"Hide not your talents, they for use were made. What's a sun-dial in the shade?" ~Benjamin Franklin

When it comes to formal evaluations of organizational employees, I think we have it all wrong. We take a look at what their weaknesses are and where they can improve. We look at what they are doing wrong, and what they are doing that is not in alignment with how we would do it and what we expect from ourselves.

In other words, we look for where they are weak.

Imagine what would happen if we…

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How to Get Over Over Preparing

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“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail” – Benjamin Franklin

Yes. I confess. I am a life long over preparer. I am one of those individuals who prepares excessively. I have a fear of being seen as someone who doesn’t know her stuff. And I carry with me a performance mentality where I have a need to be seen as an expert in my field.

The source of this is that I don’t want that experience I had as a kid when I was laughed at or made fun of because I said the wrong thing or made a mi…

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How to Be an Adult…If You Want to Be One

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When I work with leaders, we always get into a coaching conversation about who they want to be as a leader and who they are becoming. One of my clients was quick to respond with this list, which he has above his desk and has his staff hold him accountable to. These are the 25 principles of adult behavior by John Perry Barlow, who was an American poet and essayist, a cattle rancher, and a cyberlibertarian political activist.

  1. Be patient. No matter what.
  2. Don’t badmouth: Assign responsibility, n…

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How Kindness can be Totally Cool

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"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." ~Plato

I think we as a society currently lack basic human kindness toward each other. It seems we were a lot kinder to each other a mere two years ago. This saddens me. I understand the current world happenings are contributing to our inability to show kindness and I think our full, busy and stressful lives are a big contributor to our lack of kindness. We just don’t have time for it anymore and due to social distancing, we don’t have …

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Inspired or Expired?

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"Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek." ~ Barack Obama

When I first heard this, I realized the first task of leadership is to get inspired ourselves. Unless we have that hunger that must be fed and a compelling purpose to move forward, how in the world do we inspire others? It is impossible to lead if we don't feel inspired. Okay, not impossible, because I can certainly name a few lea…

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Top 10 Ways to Fail at Giving Great Feedback

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I work with a lot of people around creating a feedback culture in their organizations, which, of course, includes how to give great feedback. I’m a believer that when you learn what to do, you also need to learn what not to do.

Here are my Top 10 ways to fail at giving great feedback, in no order of importance:

  1. Don’t ask the individual for permission to give feedback Just give it to them. You know what is best for them.
  2. Provide feedback in front of other people especially when delivering di…

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