How to Wipe the Blood Off Your Chin
Resiliency is the ability to bounce back from adversity. It’s the ability to stand up after a hard fall and wipe the blood off your chin.
Dictionary.com defines it as springing back; rebounding; returning to the original form or position after being bent, compressed, or stretched; recovering readily from illness, depression, adversity, or the like; buoyant.
I imagine resiliency to be like a rubber band. It can stretch and stretch and when you let it go, it returns back into its original form. …
My Quest for Leadership
"The familiar life horizon has been outgrown; the old concepts, ideals and emotional patterns no longer fit; the time for the passing of a threshold is at hand" ~ Joseph Campbell
A few years ago I participated in a wonderful three and one-half day retreat with an organization called Rites of Passage.
This retreat called Quest for Leadership brought me back in touch with nature. Not only with nature surrounding me, but most importantly, with my own nature. With my innate wisdom.
One of the m…
Try B.I.A.S. to Stop Bias.
I’ve been teaching awareness of biases as a part of my leadership programs and coaching. There are more than 150 identified unconscious biases that are common. This number makes the task of acknowledging them and then addressing them a big one. These biases influence decisions that are made at all levels in organizations.
A few of these unconscious biases that directly impact the workplace include:
Affinity bias: The tendency to warm up to people like ourselves. It is shown that people hire…
How Confrontational Intelligence Can Get You What You Want
Last year, I studied and was certified in Judith Glaser's Conversational Intelligence (C-IQ) work. In her teachings, she describes the Three Levels of Conversation as follows:
• Level I is transactional. This is when we exchange information. You ask. I tell. Repeat. Reverse. And so goes the dance. This is simply giving instructions or directing someone.
• Level II is positional. It is an exchange of power when we explore what we know. It is persuading, advocating, inquiring and influencing oth…
Appreciation: The Unexpected Bliss
"Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary." - Margaret Cousins
Think of the last time you received unexpected appreciation. What was said? How did it make you feel about yourself? How did it make you feel about the person giving the appreciation? Now think of the last time you gave appreciation. What was said? How did it make you feel about yourself? How did the person receiving it feel? I cannot think of anything that b…
10 Tips to Increase Your Faith in You
I’m a confident woman but still, at times, I feel myself step back into thinking I am less worthy, less smart, and less experienced than someone else. And yes, this still happens.
Or when those gremlin, saboteur, and monkey-mind voices start screaming in my head and filling me up with self-doubt that makes me want to back down. When I hear these voices I take a deep breath, stand up and take a Power Pose Position and use these Top Ten Tips to remind myself of the power, talent, skill, and stre…
What I Learned from a Roller Derby Queen
After writing my blog about leadership lessons I learned from the 2019 U.S.A. Women’s Soccer Team, I kept reflecting on the impact of women sports teams and their coaches which led me down the path of my first athletic team coach.
I attended a co-ed Catholic grammar school in Chicago where sports were generously offered to the boys from early on: football, basketball, softball, floor hockey. Girls, of course, were offered cheerleading for the boys' teams.
As one of the male alum said, “The …
Want to Create More ‘A-Ha’ Moments? Five Tips to Help You
“Eureka! - I have found it!” - Archimedes
I don’t know about you, but I really love those “Eureka!” moments. I love the rush and the hit of dopamine I get when I realize I have just brilliantly solved a problem, imagined something very creative or found the answer to a question that I’ve been noodling and loosing sleep over.
It’s these moments of insight that I’ve always wanted to understand and recreate and now I do and I can…at least a little bit.
Insight is a very different process from…
Five Leadership Lessons I Learned from the USA Women’s Soccer Team Captain
When people would ask me “Did you see that soccer game?” I would always say, “I have never watched a soccer game in my entire life.”
I can say that no longer. I watched the entire final game of USA vs. The Netherlands. USA won 2:0. I watched because I was told about the strength, teamwork and the talent this team displays. Although I have no idea what the rules of the game are or how the heck soccer players can run constantly for 45 minutes at a time and do it twice, I knew I was witnessing a g…
Leadership Lesson Learned from Enzo, the Dog
Here’s why I will be a good person. Because I listen. I cannot speak, so I listen very well. I never interrupt; I never deflect the course of the conversation with a comment of my own. People, if you pay attention to them, change the direction of one another’s conversations constantly. It’s like having a passenger in your car who suddenly grabs the steering wheel and turns you down a side street.
For instance, if we met at a party and I wanted to tell you a story about the time I needed to get a …