How to Get the Outcome You Want
"If you can change your mind, you can change your life. What you believe creates the actual fact. The greatest revolution of my generation is to discover that individuals, by changing their inner attitudes of mind, can change the outer aspects of their lives."
The above quote was written by William James who wrote "The Will to Believe" in 1897. No, that's not a typographical error, he actually wrote this in 1897.
The concepts of the laws of attraction and living with intention have been ar…
How to Get the Impact You Want
"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."
~ Mark Twain
I once told someone this was my favorite quote. Finding it again brought up the many reasons I love it. All during my life, I have encountered people who were nay-sayers and tried to belittle my ambitions. There was a time when I truly believed those who told me: "You can't do that!"; "That's too big for you to do."; "Who d…
The Importance of Sustainability
"If you are not taking care of your sustainability, then you are 'full of it.'"
~ Laura Whitworth
The issue of sustainability and self care has come up many, many times recently.
"Sustainability" is defined in the American Heritage Dictionary as: "To keep in existence; to maintain. To supply with necessities or nourishment. To keep from falling or sinking. To support the spirits or resolution of."
The topic of sustainability always comes up in my work with individuals. How do we keep the …
Four Questions to Help You Reflect
"If we would only give, just once, the same amount of reflection to what we want to get out of life that we give to the question of what to do with a two week's vacation, we would be startled at our false standards and the aimless procession of our busy days." ~Dorothy Canfield Fisher
"Stop the World! I want to get off!" I screamed in the empty space in my car on the way home from a client. I pounded the steering wheel with my fisted hand. The highway (Pre-Covid) was stop and go, mostly sto…
Leadership & Learning Are Indispensable To Each Other
"Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other."
~John F. Kennedy
The above quote and title of this post is from a speech that John F. Kennedy, our 35th President never delivered.
"He was scheduled to deliver a speech in Dallas on November 22, 1963. He never spoke these words. He was assassinated on his way to the event and died before he spoke these words."
When I saw this speech, I grabbed a fresh cup of coffee and sat down to read it. It was the message I wanted to deliver to…
One Simple Technique to Alleviate Stress
“Mindfulness isn't difficult. We just need to remember to do it.” - Sharon Salzberg
These times are stressful for a lot of us. As I was writing this I began to list the many ways stress shows up, but that in itself felt stressful, so I decided not to head in that direction.
Instead I thought I’d give you one simple technique I learned from WW I’ve been using with success. It relates to mindfulness, which in my mind keeps bringing me to the importance of staying present, being in the momen…
Finding Your 'Cause for this Pause’
“You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.” – Richard Branson
The worldwide ‘pause’ that Covid-19 has forced upon us has allowed me to have a lot of reflective time. I kept saying, “I am so amazed at how little I’ve accomplished with so much more time.” And then, I realized I have been very busy reflecting and taking a look at ‘What’s Next' as a lot of you might have been, too.
I picked up my book, Gutsy Women Win and read the following excerpt. I…
The Joy of Asking for Help
Listening is being able to be changed by the other person. --Alan Alda
I always took great pride in my ability to accomplish a lot. I was one of the fastest “Check it off, it’s done” people I knew. Can you identify?
Several years ago, during a leadership program I attended, I pulled aside the leader and told her, “I am getting impatient with all these people. They seem to take forever to come to a decision and want to just talk on and on and on.”
She looked at me and smiled. “Pat, I know tha…
Give Yourself Permission to Find Your Why
“Want something you’ve never had? Do something you’ve never done.” - Unknown
Comfort Zones are the habits we have—neither good nor bad—that we need to be aware of, because they may be preventing us from playing at our best. Comfort Zones may be keeping us in the same old place, as they are just that—they are comfortable. And who wants to leave a place that is comfortable for what is unknown and more than likely uncomfortable?
A Comfort Zone can be a behavior or an action of some sort. For …
"The important thing is this: to be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become." ~Charles DuBos
Transition is the process of letting go of the way things used to be and then taking hold of the way they subsequently become. Sounds easy, but in reality, it is really hard letting go of the comfort of sameness.
We resist transition not because we can't accept the change, but because we can't accept letting go of that piece of ourselves that we have to give up when and…