How to Survive Your Life Transitions

"The important thing is this: to be able at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become."

- Charles DuBos

Transition is the process of letting go of the way things used to be and then taking hold of the way they subsequently become. Sounds easy, but in reality, it is really hard letting go of the comfort of sameness.

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We resist transition not because we can't accept the change, but because we can't accept letting go of that piece of ourselves that we have …

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Reflections on Reflecting

"If we would only give, just once, the same amount of reflection to what we want to get out of life that we give to the question of what to do with a two week's vacation, we would be startled at our false standards and the aimless procession of our busy days."

- Dorothy Canfield Fisher

"Stop the World! I want to get off!" I screamed in the empty space in my car on the way home from a client. I pounded the steering wheel with my fisted hand. The highway was stop and go, mostly stop, and it…

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Snooze or Loose

"I love sleep. My life has the tendency to fall apart when I'm awake, you know?"

- Ernest Hemingway

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I never imagined I would be writing on the topic of sleep, but I know what the impact is of not getting enough sleep has on my ability to think and act and react. I also know how getting enough sleep makes me feel ready, confident and capable. I prefer getting enough sleep.

Most importantly, as Hemingway implies in the above quote, sleep allows…

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Let's Get Gutsy and Get Going. Together.

We’re creating a movement. That’s right, you and I. Sounds like a Big Hairy, Audacious Goal (BHAG), huh? Well, it is…and it isn’t.

A movement is defined as “the act or process of moving people or things from one place or position to another.” Pretty simple. Just move. Just one little step and we’ve created movement.

O.K. there is one other thing. I believe the movement must be forward in motion, or moving toward something, or the best…being pulled toward vs. pushed away.

I’ve been feeling p…

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Who Do You Think You Are?

I am.

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I am smart.

I am giving.

I am dynamic.

I am learning.

I am wise.

I am kind.

I am courageous.

I am a good human being.

I am deserving.

I am changing.


I am.


And that’s good enough. No, that’s more than good enough. That’s awesome!


A call to action: Tell us who you think you are.

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Changing Values to Live Your Best Life

I have a value of kindness. This value was taught to me by my Mother. We were a lower middle class family living in Chicago. My Dad was a machinist and my Mom was an insurance clerk. Together, they didn’t make much money, I do remember, regardless of our financial situation, my Mom always found the resources to be kind to others, whether that be lending money to someone in need, stopping to talk to someone on the street, or even just taking the time to listen to someone who needed to talk. …

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Maya Angelou: A Tribute


"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

This quote is by Maya Angelou who passed away today. She is one of my models and an inspiration for the creation of the "Gutsy Women Win" movement.

She was truly gutsy and bold and stood up for what she believed was the right thing to do no matter what. She lived her life phenomenally. She was the kind of woman I strive to be and many times fall short …

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We Are Phenomenal Women

I am reflecting on Maya Angelou's passing and think more and more what a phenomenal woman she was in so many aspects. I want to share one of her poems here. Her words help me just sink into my body and be more comfortable as a woman and all that means physically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually.

Watching the pictures of her life are wonderful, but be sure you take the time to sit back, close your eyes, and just breathe it in, you phenomenal woman you.

Phenomenal Woman

By Maya A…

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