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10 Truths About Leadership



"To be a leader is to enjoy the special privileges ofcomplexity, of ambiguity, of diversity - but especially theopportunity to make a meaningful difference in the lives ofthose who permit us to lead." ~Max DePree

I have often wondered if you take someone who is a great leader out of their context or circumstance, would they continue to be a great leader? Well, my question has been answered.

The answer is "Yes."

I had the opportunity to hear Jim Kouzes, co-author with Barry Posner, of "The...

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How you know it’s a GULP and what to do when you feel it

GULP is that big scary exhilarated feeling you get on a roller coaster when you are firmly buckled into the coaster’s seat and slowly, slowly travel to the top of the coaster. You've been on these rides before, so you know what to expect which adds to the anticipation and building up of the excitement.

Slowly. Slowly you climb. You feel your heart racing. You breathe faster. You feel like you want to scream but know thatreleasewill come soon enough.

Finally,there you are at the top of the...

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4 Courageous Questions to Ask Yourself to Find Courage

"When you stop putting yourself on the line, and you don't touch your own heart, how do you expect to touch other people?" ~Tori Amos
I've been doing a lot of work with my clients lately on courage and I got very curious aboutwhat courage means.

As I turned to the various dictionaries, I found some define courage as lacking fear in a situation that would normally generate it. Others, in contrast, hold that courage requires one to have fear and then overcome it.

I thought the Merriam-Webster...

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Nine Tips To Get Yourself Out Of A Downward Spiral

Several years ago, I did some postgraduate work in the neuroscience of leadership. While on this journey, I became more and more in awe of our brain and its workings. This mere three-pound organ has over 100 billion nerve cells that each makes thousands of connections. And as more brain research becomes possible as technology progresses, we're finding that there's much more complexity in how we as humans operate.

Throughout this work, I learned about regulating our emotions and how impactful...

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Let’s Talk About the Value of Values

I value words.

I think they are important and because of this I am always looking up the meaning of them in the dictionary or looking for the right word to use in the thesaurus and here’s what I found about the word value:

noun: value; plural noun: values

1. the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something. "your support is of great value"

synonyms:

worth, usefulness, advantage, benefit, gain, profit, good, help, merit, helpfulness, avail; More ...

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Authenticity: The Art of Being You

“How desperately difficult it is to be honest with oneself. It is much easier to be honest with other people.”~Edward F. Benson
To be authentic is defined by dictionary.com to be trustworthy, honest, genuine, real. It is a particular way of dealing with the external world, while being faithful to our internal selves and our ideas rather than external influences and ideas.

The word originated in the early 1300’s from the Latinautheniticusmeaning “one who does things himself”.

Some of my work...

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Emotions Running Strong? Start with the STATE Principle

"In the course of my life, I have often had to eat my words, and I must confess I have always found it a wholesome diet." ~Winston Churchill

Have you been involved in any of these conversations or ones like these lately?

  • Talking to a colleague about a sensitive issue;
  • Giving your boss some feedback about her behavior;
  • Ending a relationship;
  • Talking with a rebellious teenager;
  • Confronting a loved one about an issue;
  • Asking a friend to stop a certain behavior.

Many years ago I was certified...

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The Paradoxes of Servant Leadership

In my work with leaders, we discuss the concept of servant leadership. This concept was first articulated by Robert K. Greenleaf



“A servant-leader focuses primarily on the growth and well-being of people and the communities to which they belong. While traditional leadership generally involves the accumulation and exercise of power by one at the “top of the pyramid,”servant leadership is different.The servant-leader shares power, puts the needs of others first and helps people develop and...

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Saying Good-bye to Say Hello

Last year, I merrily dumpedNew Year’s Resolutions. Because I believe what you mutter matters, last yearI looked up the synonyms for resolution and found someI adoptedfor 2018.



Last year, I madebold heartfelt declarations thatset my intentions to be full of moxie, spirit and sincerity. Icarriedthemout with courage, boldness, tenacityand gutsiness.





How’d that turn out?



Pretty good actually. My top 2018 declarations continue to help me be a better human being:



  • I declare I will practice...

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How to Let Go of FOMO and Adopt a JOMO Attitude



Last year I made the decision to take a sabbatical. For many years I thought sabbaticals wereonlyfor academics to be able to have a school yearfree from teaching to allow them to devotetime torest,research,travel, and write. This soundedlike an ideal life to me and it was one of the reasons I wanted to become a professor.



The wordsabbaticalis related to sabbath, which refers to the Biblical day of rest, or the seventh day.



The concept ofpaid sabbaticals,separate from vacation time,...

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